Have you ever had one of those weeks where you feel like your spinning out of control? You're going from here to there, there to here and before you can get your bearings, your heading back to there again.
This was last week. It all started out great, but before I knew it, it was Friday, and the weekend was closing in. And it really wasn't that super crazy. It was just a week that came and went, and now here I am.
As I look back and consider just how fast the week flew on by, I want to make sure, I make the most out of this week. So I am reminding myself of a couple important practices I need to make sure I follow.
1. Own The Calendar Before the Calendar Owns Me!
I've said this dozens of time, One the Calendar or the Calendar will Own You. And it's true! If you don't take charge of your time, you will find yourself at the end of the week, wondering what happened to the week? Whether you're blocking out your time, keeping a strict time schedule, or allocating days within your week to accomplish certain tasks, you need to take control of your schedule. This week, I will be more mindful of my time and what needs to get done. So I will be sure to schedule my week so too stay in control of my time.
Now none of these projects were so overwhelming that they tanked my week, but because they did take time, I had to juggle some of my youth ministry schedule to accommodate these other projects. Again, it wasn't a huge deal, but it has reminded me that I need to be careful where and when I say, "YES." So while I don't like to say, "NO," for the sake of my ministry, I need to carefully evaluate the ask, and remember that it's okay to say, "NO" if it doesn't fit into my time line.
3. Prioritize. Prioritize. Prioritize.
Another area where I sometimes find myself pinched for time is in mis-prioritizing what I do. I am a creative guys who sometimes leans more to perfectionism then completion. When I do this, I lose track of time working to make sure the task in just right. By doing this, I spend more time on the project then I had initially planned. Then before I know it, the day is all most over and I still have a number of important things to do. So by taking some time to prioritize my tasks, I will make sure to accomplish the items that need to get done. Then I'll come back and work on the items that require a little more time in creation.
4. Remember to Take Time to Be With the Family.
Too often in all the running around in ministry, we forget to take some time to slow down and be with the family. We go from meetings to planning to studying to prepping to teaching to after school activities to the next thing and the next thing and the next thing. We're fast paced, always moving. But if we forget to stop and tend to our families, then we have failed our great calling in ministry. After our relationship with God, our families are our next greatest priority. Setting aside the appropriate time is crucial for the survival of your family. They need you. They want you. So don't sacrifice family for the sake of your church ministry. Make them one of your greatest priorities!
Like I said, not the worst week I've ever had, but it certainly was a busy week with a lot to get done. And most of the rushing around was my fault. Had I remembered to set my calendar, prioritize, and say, "No" a little more often, perhaps I would have had a few extra minutes with the family!
I don't know how your week may be starting, but I hope you are taking control of your calendar and time, instead of it taking control of you!
Jay Higham is a 24 year veteran of student ministry; having worked with students in the local church and Christian camping settings. Jay is currently the Youth Director at Hickory Church, located in Western PA. Jay has been married to Amy for 19 years. Together, they are raising 5 kids, 4 boys and 1 little girl. Jay is passionate about student ministry, family ministry, and caring for the hearts of husbands. You can learn more about their ministry to the family and husband by visiting their family blog at, www.TheHighamFamily.com!
Jay Higham is a veteran youth worker of over 28 years; having worked with students in the local church and Christian camping settings. Jay is currently serving as the director of family ministry at a church, located in West Virginia. Jay has been married to Amy for over 23 years. Together, they are raising 5 kids, (4 boys and 1 girl). Jay is an aspiring author, blogger, speaker, vlogger, and social media junkie. He is passionate about student ministry, family ministry, and training youth workers to love and serve their students with passion and excellence.